Judging by her article in The New York Times Magazine about
the rough time women are having in the Noughties columnist
Maureen Dowd
is fixin’ to publish one of those tiresomely
superficial books that pretends to capture the zeitgeist while actually
telling us nothing except that media people in New York persist in thinking that
they are central to the culture.
Under subheads like “Courtship” “Money” “Power Dynamics” “Movies” and “Beauty” Dowd
tries to figure out what went wrong with the feminist program of the 1970s to
which she and her peers subscribed. How come girls are returning to courtship,
frills and furbelows, and men are picking up the tab at dinner? How come that women
give up so much more on the career track and successful women are so
often childless?
Of course, Dowd cannot really give an answer to all this, for it would mean
shining the light of truth on the whole modern project, and that she cannot
even begin to permit.
The answer is suggested in the complaints of a boss I worked for years ago. He
would complain that the software engineers working for him were forever going off on tangents.
We had all the time in the world for building
cute tools and elegant software embellishments. When, he would wonder, would we focus on getting the job done,
on time and on budget?
Work is hard, and humans will do anything to escape the pain of work.
That is why we have an inexhaustible appetite for diversions, hobbies, addictions, and pleasures.
All this activity is an excuse to avoid getting down to work. The central
work of adult humans is the same as adults throughout the animal kingdom, to bring forth
a new generation and rear it to adulthood.
Leaving aside the social superstructure of culture and custom, this task means
that women must spend a great part of their life energy in nurturing and raising
children. Men must spend a great deal of their life energy in providing
resources for that task, particularly during the critical period when women
are weighed down by pregnancy and by young children.
In today’s society we enjoy a remarkable privilege. We are able to separate
sex from childbearing. Thus modern women have the opportunity to control their
fertility; they can choose when to have children. In the excitement of this new freedom women have rushed out and jumped
over the fence to romp in the greener grass that seemed to grow in the man’s world
of career, power, and status that women seemed to be excluded from because of the
yoke of childbearing and the baleful culture of the patriarchy.
Women are discovering that the grass is not greener in the man’s world. And they
are discovering that their lust to escape domesticity was not a noble yearning
for freedom but just an excuse to go off on tangents and neglect the real work
that needed to be done.
The real work of humans is children. Everything else is a tangent.